Oh boy…the natural hair police!
I just came across this Clutch magazine article and it reminded me of a post that I posted on the NaturallyCurly hair forum – and boy what a fire storm that created. Initially I only posted that question because I was watching that Tyra Bank show on Good Hair and there was a woman who was natural who kind of reminded me of some natural women that I have encountered who are so “Pro-Natural” that they frown upon women who relax or straighten their hair.
I’m glad that I do I pass no judgment on women who choose to relax, I relaxed for most of my life and the only reason I went natural was because their was more versatility and I really didn’t need my hair relaxed to get it straight – so why put my hair through the stress and spend the money. Plus since my hair curls and kinks up – why bother!
Even though I may be natural it doesn’t mean that I can’t put heat in my hair or use products that may have harmful ingredients (ie. silicones, mineral oil) etc – its all my choice and what works for me might not work for some. And really and honestly just like people don’t have the right to judge you for the many decisions you make in your life – the same should apply here.
I do not think if you relax your hair it’s because you are trying to be white and I don’t think that because you decide to go natural that means you are being pro-black. You choose what’s right for you and your hair.
This site definitely talks about natural hair care – but there are a lot of tips and product reviews that relaxed ladies can benefit from as well. If anyone wants advice on my favorite relaxers or how to transition to natural please email me and I’ll gladly advise. Our community really needs to stop letting things divide us and needs to relish in the fact that our hair has created such a sisterhood and community and that needs to be celebrated! There is so much negativity out there already, about how and what we do to our hair – let’s embrace our versatile and beautiful locks!
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whats the best way to transition and still look stylish. im a young girl so i dont want to shock myself. please help!!
I just discovered your blog so I am catching up on old posts. I wathed Tyra’s good/bad hair show. I have to disagree with you about the lady that represented natural women. The permed ladies wouldn’t even let the lady with the dreds speak. One of them even said her hair was nasty and dirty. I have never understood why it is ok for a women with permed hair to joke someone with natural hair and tell them they need to go get a perm and they are never called perm nazis.
I do not disagree with you – it really does work both ways. I wonder why – maybe fear of the unknown.